Archive for the ‘Positive Thinking’ Category

This is an 18 day Mini Course in healing relationships by letting go of the fear which interferes with peace of mind. The purpose of this Mini Course is to help us recognize that we do have a choice as to whether we want to experience peace or conflict.

This Mini Course provides specific principles and guidelines, which are given personal meaning through the application of practical daily lessons.

The author, Gerald G. Jampolsky M.D., is the founder and the psychiatric consultant of the Center for Attitudinal Healing, Tiburon, California.

Lesson 1

I Am Never Upset For the Reason I Think

I am tempted to believe that I am upset because of what other people do, or because of circumstances and events beyond my control. I may experience  being upset as some form of anger, jealousy, resentment or depression. Actually, all of these feelings represent some form of fear, and I have a choice-to experience love or to be fearful. As I choose to experience love by extending love to others, my fears are dispelled. I recognize that I need no longer be upset for any reason.

Throughout the day, whenever you are tempted to be fearful, remind yourself that you can experience love instead, and say: My peace comes only from within me. It cannot come from anywhere else.

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I’ve heard it said that some people live ninety years and others live one year ninety times.  The difference is that those living their years to the fullest are living their dreams.  We are all capable of living our dream lives when we open ourselves up to possibilities and opportunities.

We have been trained to look at conditions to determine what the opportunities and possibilities are for our lives, though these conditions can be limiting when viewed with just the five senses.  When we live outside the standard senses and use intuition, imagination, and perception we are able to more clearly see our heart’s desire and the dreams that will bring us the happiness we yearn.  We all have an inner voice but it is not one of reason or logic…it is the voice of guidance.  This voice may not make sense to anyone else but it is there to help us recognize and nurture the thoughts that build dreams of our very own.

The underling principle of dream building is this: The power that is within each of us is greater than anything that is in our surroundings.  The power that is within each of us is greater than any circumstance of our life.  The power that is within each of us is greater than our history.  There are all sorts of things that we can hold as ideas that will keep us from our dreams or, instead, we can use our thoughts in service of dreams instead of thwarting them.

Changing our thoughts to best build our dreams is a two-step process.  First, we must release condition-based thinking.  If we focus our thoughts on what we don’t want to happen, we bring about those circumstances.  For example, if you want to lose weight and concentrate on not eating pizza, then you crave pizza and ultimately give in to it.

The second part of the process is to focus on what you do want to create, regardless of our conditions.  Using the weight loss example, if you think about the delicious salad you are going to have for dinner then you look forward to that salad and do not think about the pizza that would thwart your efforts.  This is true even if you work in a pizza parlor!

Each of us is the author of our own thoughts.  The past or present does not need to dictate the future.  Allow yourself to explore the possibilities of your dreams and fill your mind with what you would like to be and do and create and give.  Use your inner power to write the future in a way that supports your dreams.

To Your Greatness!

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I followed a friend’s advice “I don’t go to work to make friends”. This sage wisdom kept me locked in the same negative cycle I was accustomed to.  As a Nursing Aide, I was guarded but here at the hospital it was easy to witness the camaraderie between the nursing staff. They probably socialize together, I thought. The nursing staff were having a good time at work and it seemed to me that they probably socialized outside of work too.

I had been a care-aide for about fifteen years but didn’t have the same experience because of my belief that “I didn’t come to work to make friends” .I thought I did a good job, never missed shifts and was reliable, but I wasn’t really present.

Each time I walked into the bathroom, using a walker for support,  I saw a grey haired old man staring back at me in the mirror. Only it wasn’t my dad, it was me. Damn, was I morphing into my dad? When I lay in bed at night I had plenty of time to think about how he made his life hard for himself by believing the lies that he was not worthy and now I see how those negative thoughts got transposed onto me.

I had believed his negative thoughts about me for most of my life. He is dead, so what he thinks no longer matters, I muttered in silent conversation.

I am not my dad; I am me, without all of the negative baggage attached.

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