It is important to remember that we all have everything we need now, and that the essence of our being is “love.” If we think we need to get something from another person we will love that person when we get what we think we want, and we will hate that person when we do not. We frequently have love/hate relationships in which we find ourselves trading conditional love. The “getting” motivation leads to conflict and expressions of hostility towards ourselves and others.
On the other hand, the “giving” motivation leads to a sense of inner peace and joy that is unrelated to time. “Giving” means extending one’s love with no conditions, no expectations and no boundaries. Peace of mind occurs, therefore, when we put all of our attention into “giving” and have no desire to get anything from, or to change another person.